Hoboken, New York and beyond...

Free internet in the lobby, should be an added bonus with the apartment

2011-08-08T19:17:00.001-07:00

Yes, I discovered a while back that I can pick up the free internet connection from the Starbucks around the corner from my aunt's building when I sit in the lobby. This obviously is an added bonus for any New Yorker looking for that extra value in housing. They could include the internet access when marketing the good old "Clermont Towers" on the Upper Eastside. One problem, however, arose tonight when a lady walked by and told me how inappropriate she thought it was that I was using the lobby as my living room. I explained it was because of the free internet from Starbucks next door, but that failed to impress this person. I was Skyping with my kids. Don't see how that was so awful. In fact, I would imagine most people would think of it as cute, or clever that I was picking up the Starbucks wifi. It's not enough that we have to smell the roasted beans all the time in the lobby since they opened the bucks. The free internet is a nice trade off, right? In any case, I copped a big resentment towards this lady, but only had the courage to say that she was the only person to complain. In any case, she was a jerk.

Coping with life after the Star-Ledger: Beaches, Sponge Bob, Corruption and Baseball

2009-07-26T07:47:00.000-07:00

I left the Star-Ledger just a little over a week ago, walking out of the newsroom with a box in hand and a round of applause from my colleagues. I think it's the greatest gesture a journalist gets, and of course, it makes leaving the newspaper business all that much harder.

I think that's why I got out of Newark pretty quickly that day. But after a weekend of hanging around the house, I was right back in Jersey, visiting the Shore on Monday.

Island Beach State Park (http://www.islandbeachnj.org/) was incredible. The sun and warm surf were just right, and I loved the setting against a backdrop of sand dunes. We left afterwards for the boardwalk in seaside (both the Heights, http://www.seaside-heightsnj.org/, and the Park, http://www.seasideparknj.org/). I recommend the Casino Pier (http://www.casinopiernj.com/) over Funtown Pier (http://www.funtownpier.com/).

Casino's bigger, and the rides are better. It has a beautiful carousel, and Stillwalk Manor, a haunted house, is actually scary. Funtown has a huge ferris wheel, visible for miles, but other than that, the rides are lackluster. The Comet coaster pleased my thrill-seeking kids, but the Sponge Bob ride, a sort of funhouse, was very disappointing. My 7-year-old daughter and I got off calling it, "Sponge Bob rip-off!"

For snacks we had cotton candy and Kohr's frozen custard. I recommend mint. And for dinner, we had sliders at White Castle's on Route 37 in Toms River. From there, we stopped off in Lakewood, to see the old Ortega homestead. Our former house is once again up for sale (http://www.remax-nj.com/remaxnj/modules/internet/search/includes/mapsearch/listingpopup.asp?mlsid=211&mlsnumber=20923916&l=y). Sadly, most of the neighbors we knew are all gone.

We also stopped at St. Mary of the Lake cemetery (http://www.stmaryofthelake.org/) to visit the graves of my parents, and an old friend, Bob Romano.

The shore is such a contrast to north Jersey. Nothing quite as urban as Newark. Not even Asbury Park, which seems to be picking up, albeit slowly. The beach there too is very nice.

I went right to work at my new job in Hoboken on Wednesday, and spent the remainder of the week studying everything I could about hedge funds, which I'll be writing about for a corporate newsletter. I also abandoned my car for the train ride into Hoboken. It was long, but quite a switch from driving. I did more reading than I've been able to all year.

Hoboken is extraordinary. So many stores. So many restaurants. So picturesque. So affluent. It's so easy to spend money there. A big difference from Newark.

I've not spoken much to the folks at Newark's city hall or at the Ledger since my departure. All were a bit busy with several shootings. Hoboken got crazy too with this week's North Jersey corruption scandal (http://www.nj.com/news/index.ssf/2009/07/peter_cammarano_iii_portrayed.html). Ironically, I'm at the new job just two days, and the mayor gets nabbed by the feds! Hoboken's city hall is right around the corner from my office too.

I did return to Newark on Friday, to see the Bears play the Southern Maryland Blue Crabs (http://www.newarkbears.com/gamecenter/gamerecap/). My family came too, and we sat in a sky box, with food included, as part of a corporate invite. The company that invited us is a printing firm, based in Newark for 25 years.

It was a fun time, with fireworks over the Passaic River at the end of the game. It's a nice image of Newark to hold on to. However, there's a lot more to New Jersey's largest city, beyond the rockets and explosions.

I didn't do enough to write about the city, in only seven months on the beat. I wish I could have done more. And I do miss it.

This will be my last posting on this blog. Thanks for reading.

Ralph Ortega

Newark developer Tony Gomes

2009-07-09T03:02:00.000-07:00

I interviewed Tony Gomes yesterday, after the developer agreed to drop three lawsuits he filed against the Newark Housing Authority (http://www.nj.com/news/index.ssf/2009/07/newark_developer_drops_lawsuit.html). Tony sued about three years ago after the authority refused to take possession of a 56-unit development he built, because of alleged deficiencies. He said he wasn't happy with the settlement, which paid him what he was promised, $8.7 million, because it had cost him much more money to build the complex and fight the authority. He said he originally wanted more than $18 million in damages, but agreed to settle because he couldn't afford the legal fight any more. Gomes said he's broke, and that he'll use the settlement to pay off his loans. The authority, meanwhile, will likely sink another $3 million to address its concerns, including design flaws in the construction, and get the units occupied by next year.
Gomes was very open to discussing the situation. He's Angolan, in his 50s, and has kept his office in Newark for three decades. He said his name meant, "quality," before the authority balked at accepting the development. "Now I just want my reputation back," he told me.
The Star-Ledger did do an investigation that found Gomes, the authority and city had issues going into the project. Gomes also had then, and still has a friend in state Sen. Ron Rice (D-Essex), who used to work for the developer, and continued working for him after he became deputy mayor under Sharpe James. Rice said he didn't see a conflict, but quit his job as a vice president in Gomes's company because people had expressed concerns. Rice also said his relationship with Gomes was used as a political weapon against him when he ran for mayor in 2006, and for re-election to the senate in the following year. Rice said the Gomes project ran into difficulties because of his relationship to the developer. "Tony was hurt because he's my friend," Rice said.
Unfortunately, with this story on my plate yesterday, and a Sunday story in the works, I couldn't attend the youth tribute to Michael Jackson at Military Park last night (http://www.nj.com/newark/index.ssf/2009/07/newark_idol_returns_with_tribu.html).

So long since my last post, and soon so long to Newark

2009-07-03T12:33:00.000-07:00

I've had a whirlwind couple of weeks, which is why I haven't updated the blog. I went off to attend a journalism conference in Puerto Rico, returned home to an unpaid, furlough from work, which left me with a lot of time to catch up on housekeeping at home. Time for self-appraisal too.

I will soon be reaching the end of my time at the Star-Ledger, a job that I've enjoyed very much for 4 1/2 years. But it's time to move on. I've accepted a business writing position for a subscription newsletter in Hoboken, and will start there later this month. It's a stable job, about a timely subject.

Before then, I'll have a couple weeks left in Newark, and look forward to writing a few more blog entries about my experiences in the city, and with it's people.

For now, I'll include one small disappointing note: I drove over the Jackson Street Bridge on Wednesday, and noticed trash floating in the Passaic River. Now, that's no surprise. But it was still a sad sight.

I grew up in New York, during a time that you'd never think about swimming in the Hudson or East Rivers. Both were green, and allegedly very dirty. Well, that's changed now. Just look at how many people actually ride kayaks along the water.

I hope the same will be true for Newark's river. School children already have braved the water in boats they built in school this spring, and the city has plans for creating a waterfront park in the Ironbound. However, it will take time before the river is a healthy place again. It's contaminated from a years of industrial waste, and of course, garbage.

Gone to see Newark showing of "Land of the Lost"

2009-06-21T01:55:00.000-07:00

I decided to accept Mayor Cory Booker's invite to go see "Land of the Lost," the new film version of the classic Saturday morning, kid's TV show, starring comedian Will Ferrell, at the Newark Screens Friday night. I left the Star-Ledger about 10 minutes before six, and arrived at the theater to find former police chief, now special adviser to the mayor on public safety, Anthony Campos, and a small crowd already there. The chief seems to be a movie-loving guy, like myself. We last saw each other at the mayor's Star Trek outing in May (http://www.flickr.com/photos/hopeful_in_nj/3522381829/).
The screens are a decent place for being the only major movie theater in town (<iframe width="425" height="350" frameborder="0" scrolling="no" marginheight="0" marginwidth="0" src="). The place is clean and well-staffed. But it does look like it was built on the cheap. Plain walls, neon signs and worn carpet. Newark native and basketball pro Shaquille O'Neal (http://www.nj.com/news/index.ssf/2009/02/newark_theater_and_cityowned_l.html) bought the screens earlier this year with some partners, and plans to replace it with a new theater/entertainment complex, which also serves dinner. That should fit nicely on Springfield Avenue, which is one of the best, redeveloped sections of Newark. It already has an Applebee's and Home Depot, Duane Reade pharmacy, and a drive-thru Dunkin' Donuts/Baskin Robbins. Plus, there's a lot of new development in the area too, including an apartment building named after Sharpe James. The former mayor just asked an appellate court have his conviction thrown out (http://www.nj.com/news/index.ssf/2009/06/sharpe_james_lawyer_asks_appea.html).
Mayor Booker arrived in his black SUV, trailed by a Time magazine reporter who said he's writing an update on Booker and Newark. The mayor shook hands and stood for photos with the crowd, which included several young people. Booker said he had some reservations about seeing, "Lost," (http://www.nj.com/movies/index.ssf?/movies/render.do?finder=njo&movieId=63950) when he realized he could have opted for Disney/Pixar's "Up," (http://www.nj.com/entertainment/tv/index.ssf/2009/05/up_movie_review_disney_pixars.html). But it already was too late to change the film selection. He promised the children with us, that if the movie was disappointing, he'd take them all out again. The mayor said he covers the cost of tickets, popcorn and soda through his campaign, and does a fair amount of mingling with constituents while he's there. He sat in the theater with the kids, as he did for Star Trek, and stayed till the last credit, hoping to see one of those surprise add-on endings.
There was one, and it was pretty forgettable, like the movie too. The mayor left somewhat unsatisfied, but the crowd was happy. After all, it was a Will Ferrell film, and not a true remake of the classic TV show. It felt almost like watching one of those Scooby Doo, live action movies, just not as painful.
I told Campos going in, that, "Lost," would be worth the price of admission, if Ferrell sang the show's cheesy theme song. He did, during a disgusting scene with a prehistoric mosquito. Overall, not a bad time.

Reaction to homeless woman who gradated from Essex County College graduation

2009-06-19T03:08:00.001-07:00

I wrote about Toni Clark (http://www.nj.com/news/index.ssf/2009/06/newark_woman_graduates_essex_c.html) who attended Essex County College while she was homeless, and graduated with an Associates Degree in education on June 5.

Since then, I've received a lot of feedback, including the following email and poem that captures the sentiment of most folks who were inspired by this woman's story:

Hi Mr. Ortega

I read your article about Ms. Clark and was so touched that I put in up on my office bulletin board for everyone to read. From the CEO to the warehousemen in the company, everyone was inspired from one woman's story of accomplishment. One gentleman @ my job was very moved and touched that he wrote a poem for her:

Homeless not Hopeless

This is story about a woman who had a dream
She felt she had to do it by herself because she didn't have a team
Homeless, jobless, down on her luck.
Instead of giving out, she decided to look up.
Asking her heavenly Father to please help her through it
Without his strength and love, she knew she couldn't do it
Faith, hard work and determination is how she finally made it
Guess what, on June 5th, 2009 she actually graduated
There is a moral to this story
And I hope you will all receive it
Anything is possible if you just believe it.
BY:Arthur deBose

Thank you for your wonderful story.....We all need to read about someone attaining their dreams.

Nicole Dudek

One note to add to this. One of my editors did a great job tightening the focus of this story. He let me sit with him as he read through it and made changes, line by line. This is my favorite kind of edit, because of the opportunity to learn and improve my writing.

Crash at Green Street and McCarter Highway

2009-06-19T02:46:00.000-07:00

My car was hit by an SUV at Green Street and McCarter Highway last night. The other driver said the light was yellow when she crossed the intersection. But it was clearly green when I was going through. The road was slick, and I slammed on my brakes, which limited the damage to my car's front end. The other driver was really shook up, poor thing. Fortunately, no one was hurt. She insisted we call the cops, which I feared would delay us at the scene for a while. She called her husband too, who came right away and agreed with me that we could resolve this without the police's help. He also agreed that his wife probably was facing a ticket and points on her license. I even had a witness who was saw the lady blow through the light of the intersection.
As much as I denied it to myself, I was still pretty shook up. That witness, who happened to be a friend from work, went with me to get a coffee, before I hit the road from home. My car is still driveable. Thank goodness for that too.
Driving in Newark is a bit risky. There are a lot of careless people behind the wheel, and speeders. We also have sometimes have drag racing. I try to use public transportation as often as I can, and the light rail is truly wonderful. Too bad there's not more of it through out town. So modern, quiet, and definitely safer.

Pounding the pavement

2009-06-17T15:25:00.000-07:00

Started my day attending a Newark Regional Business Partnership breakfast at the Robert Treat Hotel. Newark's Police Director Garry McCarthy was the keynote speaker. He was complimented by the various business leaders at the meeting, including one man who stood up and personally thanked McCarthy for making the city safer, since he took his job three years ago. McCarthy said his police force deserves the credit for doing the job. "The police work on the ground, where the rubber meets the road, with cops doing this job, is going on at an exceptional level. And the change that's happening in this city, is really a tribute to them," he said.
McCarthy appealed to those at the breakfast, to help him in changing the negative perceptions of Newark. He said it was just as challenging when he worked for the New York Police Department, during an era of similar crime reduction. "It took a while before people felt the change in New York City," he said. McCarthy said people need to actually visit Newark to feel the difference. "I don't know how to change the perception, except to keep staying at it," he said.
When discussing other challenges, McCarthy noted the city's 911 system is overloaded with non-emergency calls. He said 51 percent were low-level calls, that tied up cops from more serious matters. He urged the business leaders to help spread the word on the city's information line, (973) 733-4311, which can take the burden off 911.
From the breakfast, I went walking in downtown. I first headed over to the Newark Art Supply on Halsey Street, where I enjoyed a nice Italian espresso. From there, I stopped at the old Bamberger's which is mostly occupied by companies that use the building for their computer servers. The lobby, however, still has pictures of the old department store. I didn't realize there also was an Ohrbach's at the corner of Halsey and Market Streets.
From there, I went over to a sneaker store, which operates from the lobby of an old theater across from Bamberger's. Now, I'm not talking about the Paramount, which is on the other side of Broad Street. This was one of those "lost" theaters, which no one seems to know the name of. The owner of the store said the city owns the place. I emailed a city official to ask, but haven't heard back from him yet. I continued on down to Beaver Street, which was closed off for a public cafe set up by the Newark Downtown District. It looked very nice on the red bricks of the street, and in front of an vacant, Roman temple-styled building. Scully's, the restaurant around the corner, actually will serve customers at the cafe this year, said the district's executive director, Anthony McMillan. The cafe's open for lunch on Wednesdays and Fridays, and may include entertainment later this summer.
I dashed off to get a shoe shine, and then over to Mi Gente on Central Avenue to get some lunch to take back to the office. Nothing beats their $5 "stimulus special." I recommend the boneless chicken, lightly browned in garlic and served with onions. On the way back to my car, I ran into Clement Price, the Rutgers professor and Newark historian. We chatted about the theater. He too couldn't remember the name. We were approached by Michael Lamont, who just opened a neck wear store on Halsey Street, next to 27Mix. Lamont wore a bow tie he personally made. "I'll be back to learn how to tie a tie like that," Price told him, pointing to an elegant black bow tie, with grayish-blue pokadots Lamont wore. He said it was double-sided too, which means you really get two ties, for the price of one at his place.
One other stop I made was at the Village Hotel. This is what we used to call a hot-sheet hotel, when I worked at New York's Daily News. Most of these places specialize in providing rooms for romantic rendezvous. They charge as little as $35 for a "short stay." I had to check it out, because this place is right in the middle of the so-called "West Village of Newark, at the corner New and Halsey Streets. I wonder if that's where the place gets its name. The clerk was rather nice, and even showed me a couple of rooms. They smelled pretty heavy on the disinfectant. I hate to say, I've stayed in a few commercial places that smell the same. The clerk said the hotel does have overnight guests, and actually sells out sometimes. She was more than happy to take reservations too.

Recycle this!

2009-06-14T14:18:00.001-07:00

We got several calls at the paper this week from Newarkers who were steamed they received tickets for recycling violations, and that several hundred were on line to pay their fines at the municipal court. Some people even called to complain while they were on line at the payment window.

When I first went down to check it out, I ran into a police aide who wouldn't let me pass with a voice recorder I had in my pocket. There's probably some rule against bringing such devices into the court. I, however, was just going to the payment window.

The police aide didn't want to know anything about it. She insisted I take the recorder back out to my car. I had walked there from the Ledger, so that wasn't an option. When I tried to explain that I was a reporter, and in a hurry to speak to the folks who had called us, the aide again wouldn't hear me out. I tried a third time to explain my case, and was told not to raise my voice. I wasn't raising it.

The aide then left to go get a supervisor. I decided not to wait, and as I turned to leave, the aide thought I was making a move to get passed her. She even threatened to arrest me for trespassing. Having had enough of this overzealous police aide, I just kept going. "I'm leaving the building!" I yelled as I went out the exit.

I stashed my recorder behind a stoop outside, and returned into the building, where the police aide was now deep into discussion with someone. She also was ignoring a line of people waiting to enter the building.

A woman at the front of the line decided to go ahead anyway, and stuck her bag into the security scanner at the entrance. The police aide was too busy talking to notice, and didn't look at the scanner monitor as the bag went through. Three other people in front of me did the same. I went through too, again with no word from the aide.

Once inside, I found 47 people on line for the payment window. Several were charged $147 for multiple violations. They were accused of not flattening their cardboard, or tying it into bundles. Some also were charged with failing to separate their bottles and cans into plastic bags.

A woman pulled out a calculator and did the math, multiplying 47 times $147. She hit the equal sign and showed the total to her husband, "That's more than six Gs," he said.

I left to meet a resident who called me on his cell phone outside. He was a retired cop, who also had been fined. However, the summons notice he received in the mail had no specifics. He had to go to court to find out why he was being ticketed, and insisted he was being charged improperly. The city, he said, needs to say upfront what a person is being fined for. He said that when he worked as a police officer, he couldn't charge anyone without saying what the charge was for. He joined several people insisting the city was just trying to raise its revenues.

Melvin Waldrop, the city administrator in charge of sanitation services, told me that wasn't the case. He had a crew of seven inspectors, recently reassigned from writing tickets for alternate side-of-the-street parking, to recycling compliance, and the crew had written up about 5,000 violations.

The tickets, Waldrop said, were an incentive for people to recycle.

A reader wrote me an email saying she didn't think the city should be writing tickets at all, because it's not even consistent about picking up recycleables. Her recycling had not been picked up for three or four months until she called the city, she said. The call brought sanitation out once to pick up her recycling only once. The city hasn't come back since, she said.

The lady had some harsh words after that.

"If the sanitation dept. can show proven record that they pick up the trash/recycling on the scheduled day then only will i agree with giving out tickets but until then its all a scam and politics at its best, TRASH. Sincerely, ANGRY NEWARK RESIDENT," she wrote in an email.

Ironbound visit on June 10, 2009

2009-06-11T04:54:00.000-07:00

I met the great Bernardino Coutinho, founder of Newark's Portugal Day festival, approaching its 30th year this weekend. Coutinho was at his office inside a former, brick firehouse. He was quite gracious, and very European. He offered to send out for coffee, if I wanted. I passed.

What a presence this guy had. Seventy-two-years-old, tall, with a bit of paunch belly, and a lot of charm. A bit of sly devil too. He made fun of his distaste for a local official, suggesting he needs to be fitted for a pair of cement galoshes. I warned him to be careful about saying that as often as he did around me and others, because he might be taken seriously, and bring on the cops. Coutinho just laughed it off.

I went to visit because Coutinho's knee deep in a bunch money problems with the festival. Newark wants him to pay for event-related expenses, which he said brings in a million people from all over the world to the Ironbound, to celebrate Portugal Day on June 10. He's struggling to come up with the money, relying on restaurants, stores and vendors to come up with most of the cash.

But I sensed that he's having a more difficult time adjusting to change. Newark officials are charging for police and sanitation services, to raise revenues for the cash-strapped city. Cortinho's more concerned with putting on the festival. He's the Ironbound's answer to P.T. Barnum, who just wants to entertain everyone who's coming down this weekend, and to celebrate his heritage.

Now, the Ironbound, already a mess with traffic and seriously lacking in parking, is even worse because of a streetscape project on Ferry Street. There are some very annoying detours, which just add to the road rage tendencies I get whenever I drive there.

My suggestion is, take a bus or the light rail over to Newark Penn Station, and walk from there into the Ironbound. After all, pedestrians do get the best experience in this terrific neighborhood.

There's plenty of shopping, and you're supposed to frequent the big restaurants, like Iberia. But my favorite spot is a corner burger place across from the Pathmark Supermarket on Ferry. This is actually a Brazilian burger joint, which serves an awesome sandwich with eggs, mayonnaise lettuce, tomato and those string potato chip fries, all under a fresh baked bun. I don't recall the name, but it's definitely a cholesterol-laden feast. Very tasty. The place serves decent espresso too.

The most patriotic journalist I know

2009-06-09T14:26:00.000-07:00

The following post is from a June 8, 2009 letter sent to several people, including myself, from the most patriotic reporter I've been priviledged to know. His time as a journalist was brief, because he was recalled to service, after two earlier tours of duty.

Those of you who know who I'm talking about, please respect this person's privacy, and decline from naming who it is. I don't know if this person wants everyone knowing where these humble thoughts came from. I also deleted his girlfriend's name too.

Here's the letter:

Hello all,

Four months have passed since I received orders recalling me to the Army; it’s been nine weeks since I first reported back for duty. I’m writing to let you know that my pre-deployment training is finally complete and that this weekend I will board a plane bound for Afghanistan. I’ll spend the next year as part of an infantry battalion training Afghan military and police forces in the mountainous eastern provinces that border Pakistan. I’m falling in on a tough unit, and I believe the mission will be personally very fulfilling.

At this point, I’m just eager to get started. My re-entry into the service has been a whirlwind of activity and travel so exhausting, it almost seems designed to make the thought of deploying desirable. My reintegration kicked off with two long weeks of in-processing and classes at Fort Jackson, South Carolina. Once that was complete, the Army bused me 18 hours to Fort Leonard Wood, Missouri, where I spent three weeks brushing up on critical skills in my branch specialty (I’m a combat engineer). Then on May 9, I flew to Camp Shelby in Hattiesburg, Mississippi, to round out the final training and evaluations that were necessary to make me eligible for deployment.

I’ve readjusted quickly to the rhythm and oddities of Army life: the pre-dawn wakeups, the forfeiture of all privacy and the crude, peculiar lingo that only soldiers can discern. In the absence of reliable Internet access, I’ve spent most of my free time at the gym, buried in a book or tinkering with the gear that will accompany me to the desert. I also have had ample time to get to know the fellow soldiers with whom I’ll be serving. Among the most interesting reservists I’ve met are a former cyclist who at one time competed alongside Tour de France regular George Hincapie, a newspaper editor-turned-winemaker-turned-historian and a young female prison guard with horrific tales from the high-security Missouri prison where she works – all great material for my journal.

The last few months haven’t been all hard work, either. Right before reporting for duty in April, I went on vacation with my girlfriend and our families. We did Mardi Gras in New Orleans (my home) and Spring Break in Boston (my girlfriend’s home). In March, we even managed to squeeze in a two-week, impromptu trip down to Argentina. We stayed in Buenos Aires for a few days, then rented a small car and drove north to the foothills of the Andes and the wine regions.

It was the perfect getaway. Just last week, I was granted a four-day pass to New Orleans to say final goodbyes to my parents, my sister and girlfriend, who flew down from New York amid intense reporting for her book. Their support through all of this has been extraordinary.

Now on the eve of war, I can confidently say that my conscience is clear. After two years studying and working as an aspiring journalist, I’ve come to realize that much good may result from this temporary interruption in my life. As an Iraq veteran, I’ve always considered myself a fortunate, front-line witness to that war during what I believe is a watershed moment in our nation’s history. And given how much I’ve been shaped by it personally, I now feel strongly compelled to see firsthand the unfolding challenges in Afghanistan.

Thank you for your continued support and encouragement throughout this time. I hope to be able to send updates more frequently once I get settled in Afghanistan.

Until then, I will be hoping to hear from you very soon.

I worked with this guy for only six months, and in that brief time came to sincerely admire him. He showed he was very dedicated to journalism, and when the army came calling, how devoted he was to this country.

Trip to the Airport

2007-08-12T04:39:00.000-07:00

This morning, I picked up a fellow reporter and dropped him off at the airport in Newark before I continued on to work.
I don't want to mention his name for now, but wanted to mention that he's been a real inspiration. He's a journalist, like me, and has written three books, not like me. But we share other things in common. We' re both married with kids, which makes us both very busy dads, and we're originally from New York, living now in Pennsylvania, where we're being as creative as we can to survive and provide for our families in these struggling times.
Yes, we're both in the newspaper business, which from day one for me, has operated in a crisis mode. I'm told there was a period of prosperity in the late 1990s, but I think I somehow missed it. Now, we're faced with reinventing ourselves, to stay a viable business.
Anyway, I picked up my buddy about 4:15 a.m., wanting to spend more time with him. He had a cup of coffee ready for me, and wanted to pay for gas. I took the coffee, but turned away the cash.
Fact is, I like having him to speak to. We think alike in many ways. For example, my philosophy is to let my stories speak for theselves. Do my best and let the work carry itself.
My friend agreed.
We talked about work, and also shared about the way we raise our kids. I mentioned how I teach my oldest son to embrace life now, while he is young. To learn to be an avid reader, so that he doesn't struggle later on as an adult, like I do. It takes me forever to finish a book.
My friend agreed.
Right now, I'm reading Elizabeth Gilbert's "Eat, Pray, Love," restarted reading Gabriel Garcia Marquez's "100 Years of Solitude," and a true life crime novel written by my friend. I can't say much more about his published work because of his latest project. Otherwise, as the joke goes, he'll have to kill me if I do.
We spoke for the whole ride until I dropped him off at the airport. It was good. I think the more time I spend with him, the more focused I can stay on my work as a jouranlist and as a writer. I'm not consistant. It's the same thing as my reading.
My mind is racing. I'm not going to start scheming - always making plans, always plotting, always trying to fix my life, and trying to fix others.
Not now. I'm just going to enjoy the moment. It was a good ride.

Spiritual guru

2007-08-12T04:31:00.000-07:00

I am reading "Eat, Pray, Love," by Elizabeth Gilbert, and concluded that I need a spirtual advisor, a mentor, a guru, somebody to confide in about prayer, God, my spirtual living. I can't imagine who that person will be.

The desire comes from Gilbert's book, where she also writes a petition to God, asking him to end her bitter divorce. So, I'm right now going to borrow on the idea:

God, I am asking you to please steer someone into my life who can guide me on my spirtual journey. Someone who I can share about my prayers and meditations, and my petitions to you, like this one. May be that person can by like Vicky, the woman who loaned me Elizabeth Gilbert's book, "Eat, Pray, Love."

Thank you God for always listening.

Ralph